GETTING BACK ON THE HORSE, CONFESSION OF A ROOKIE MOM’S night OUT

It was Mama’s night out and you have no idea how badly I needed it.

My husband,Tyler, had just returned from being out of town for work and would be leaving again in a few days. I love my baby, don’t get me wrong, but being alone with a 7-week old, around the clock, tends to make me a little crazy, so I jumped at the chance for a night out before the hubs left town again.

Tyler and I made a decision to do dinner and drinks with friends. That alone wasn’t going to be enough to satisfy my craving for adult interaction though so I made a decision to take it up a notch.

You see, I pointed out I had a 7 week old. That indicates that I had recently had my 6-week check up with my midwife (while my spouse was out of town). As I’m assuming you mommies know what that means….the all clear for sexy time.

But here’s the thing: just because your doctor says you can “do it” doesn’t indicate you (A) feel like it or (B) could find the time even if you wanted to.

But my husband, God bless him, deserved it. He hardly bugged me once over the course of the 6 weeks after our daughter, Piper, was born (probably because I told him to go take matters into his own hands). I felt like it was time to give him the best 30 seconds of his life.

So what did I do…..?

I paid for sex

No, not like that you weirdo. who do you think I am?

You see, I had figured out that getting busy with my spouse was hard to make happen at our house. Our kid fusses like crazy in the evenings (holy witching hour). By the time that is over, I’m exhausted and the last thing on my mind is bumping uglies.

And while we’ve gotten a babysitter before, she pertains to our house and it would just be odd to run off into another room (though the thought has crossed my mind).

So, I made a decision to get a hotel room. for what [turned out to be] around 30 minutes. $110 hotel room, 30 minutes, that’s $3.67 a minute (not including taxes)!

My “night out” started out “normally”. We met up with our pals  (also parents of a young one) and I had my first Moscow Mules. In a year. and yes, they were delicious.

The pals that we met up with are pregnant with their 2nd child, so naturally the conversation centered a lot around babies. It’s funny how that happens. I’ve turned into “that woman”. before I had a kid I hated talking about other peoples kids for a lot more than five minutes.

But what about the sex?

I had made a decision the day prior that I was going to do this whole hotel thing. However, planning this stuff is difficult with this newly acquired kid.

We have our babysitter for a limited amount of time and I’m going to need to pump at some point. So instead of eating dinner at my favorite restaurant downtown and then driving across town to a hotel, I just shortened the whole thing. I booked dinner reservations at a restaurant that also happens to be in a hotel (I’m efficient!). considering that it’s a restaurant we’ve eaten at, it wasn’t suspicious to my husband.

Now, it absolutely wasn’t as good of a restaurant as my normal downtown favorite, but I got to eat a hot meal and there was no baby crying. So I’ll take it.

After dinner I busted out a room crucial and gave it to my husband. Boy, he was ecstatic (and surprised!).

Without going into too lots of details, it was absolutely better than I expected. but still slightly painful.

We checked in around 8:00 and made it home by 9:00 with a quick stop at Trader Joe’s on the way home.

Was it the most romantic thing I’ve experienced? probably not. However, often you just got to jump back on the horse. You see if you weren’t hungry, you’d still eat at some point during the day. Well this is kind of the same thing. now that we’ve got that out of the way, I’m sure there will be much less anxiety about future “sessions.”

It was fun, it was refreshing, it was exactly what I needed.

Now I want to hear from you! In the comments below I’d love to hear your best idea for keeping the romance alive post-baby. We could all use some inspiration!